Husband Hiding Viagra

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Found some Viagra. 86

Married to dh for 10+ years, 3 kids, no plans for more and he is 41 years old.

Weird that he would have taken 4 tablets in 12 days. Would he even have had an opportunity for 4 shags in that time (with someone else I mean)?

Does he have diabetes? I believe that 40+yr old men who are diabetic are automatically offered viagra on prescription for free. Maybe he just hasn’t mentioned it out of embarrassment – although that wouldn’t account for all 4 tabs being used (when you’ve only had sex once).

I would say masturbation but it strikes me as odd the box is in the car.

Ok. Don’t automatically jump to conclusions . Last week I found a pack of 3 condoms in my car and was appalled, until I remembered buying them as tesco were out of usual large pack and could not find them in my shopping.

I assume he masturbated or changed his mind on the 3 occasions he took it but we didn’t shag.

I would ask him.

Hmmmm, hidden Viagra + diet + exercise = red flags

Doldare- I know what you are saying but I can’t find evidence of an affair. He usually pays for stuff by card and there are no questionable items on online banking. I can check his work and personal email via his phone which I know the password to. He’s not possessive or secretive over his phone either. Internet history is also normal-no porn, chat sites etc.

That’s good. I know hoof beats usually mean horses, but sometimes zebras do appear.

My alarm bells rang at the diet and exercise tbh.

I know that dieting and exercising is a red flag but I’ve been doing it too and am definitely not having an affair.

Do you think he had taken it the last time you had sex?

You could hint that you are in the mood one evening and see if he appears with a humungous dinger 40 mins later

Had he taken it when you had sex that once?

Hmm.. can’t really put it down to exercising lots as that tends to increase libido. Some red flags, but you know him and seem sure about him. Wardrobe changed a bit too? More care in appearance? How convinced are you? Maybe a bit more thought and critical observation required, or a mid-life crisis?

My other half has taken up rock climbing and running. He is a lot more up for now, not the other way round.

You should know if he had had it before you last had sex – it would of been completely different. Think back, was it same as ever or not?

Just bumping up.

Viagra’s not available on the NHS, so he’ll have had to pay for a private prescription. Does that appear on his credit card statements? (In a chemist’s shop, or Boots, I guess)

If not, he’s hiding the purchase from you.

I can’t see why a man would take Viagra for masturbation at all. You’re either in the mood or not, and planning a wank for an hour’s time seems improbable.

So did you ask him op??

Does he have erectile issues?

I can’t think of a single legitimate reason why a DH would take 4 viagras when not with his Dw.

I’d say nothing. Or alternatively have an insipid conversation about ‘a friend’ whose DH used Viagra and see if he mentions it.

Spidey senses going awry I’m afraid

I’d ask in a lighthearted way. "You’ll never guess what I found in the car. " and take it from there. You’ve been married for 10 years and have 3 kids. I’m sure you can both cope with a bit of embarrassment. It’s certainly better than rifling through his e-mails etc.

He may find it embarrassing. I did. Now I get "Are you taking one of your pills. ".

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